Learning to say No

Why is it when we stand up for ourselves, some call this selfish?  One should have the right to draw a line in their personal life and say ENOUGH!  If you don't look out for you, who else will?  For most of us, we've been taught all our lives to believe in ourselves and trust our hearts and make decisions that are in our best interest.  However, when we do, the opposite happens.  We are perceived as being self-centered, not caring, and selfish.  

Time to stop walking on 'pins & needles', I say.  I'm already contemplating the New Year and what I desire to better myself.  One of the areas I need to cultivate is the area of saying, No, to some things.  We can be so tuned in to saying Yes to everyone we want to make a good impression on, that we neglect ourselves and our own personal beliefs and standards.

It's OK to set personal boundaries.  It's OK to say No sometimes.  Trust your intuition (spirit man), it's in you for a reason.  God didn't call you to save everyone!  He sent His only son, Jesus to die on the cross for that reason.  He called us, so that the World might be saved through our testimony and gentle journey on a daily basis with Him.  I'm learning more and more each day, that I am more effective for my family and friends, when I live my life as it would please the Lord and not man.  Sometimes, I catch myself saying Yes to many things I am not required to say Yes too.  I step back, look at my priorities, then organize them in a way that pleases the Father and not others.  In the end, we are responsible for us!  

Remember, you can't save everyone, but, you can save YOU!  By saving yourself, you help others.  As crazy as it might sound, it really is true.  Don't let others allow you to feel condemnation for not being readily available at their moments notice.  Listen for God's voice in your life, and he will direct your path.  You'll witness frustration, anxiety and anger begin to fall off your life as you shake those things loose that you've said Yes to for so long, that now you are saying No.  

No is not always a bad word.  It can actually save you years of frustration.  Just listen closely to the voice inside and you'll know when your NO fits!