I woke up this morning with Valentine's Day on my mind. I really want to encourage the single ladies and men to do something special for YOU this Valentine's Day. I've spent many of these special days alone, so I do know, first hand, how it feels. Alone sucks! Bottom line...I'm not going to try and sugar coat it. However, YOU have to take control of where YOU are in life. I try so hard to emphasize to so many singles how important it is to be WHOLE first, then that special someone will come along. Why would God put two unfinished souls together? It grieves me when I see some of my friends rush into relationships, out of fear of being alone. We need this quiet time, to truly know who we are, and who God created us to be. You DO NOT need another person to fulfill you! You need YOU!
I had to make myself do things that were uncomfortable, to push myself and my emotional limitations. I went to the beach alone, I ate dinner at a nice restaurant alone, I've gone to the movies by myself and laughed out loud. I've driven hundreds of mile to attend weddings, speaking engagements and just to spend time by myself in order to hear my thoughts, and feel my emotions without outside interference. I'm not encouraging you to do something I haven't experienced. I've had so many ask me how I did it, how I got through the pain, loneliness and rejection. This is how...it's hard! I started out not liking it, but then, one day, it flipped, and I began to look forward to those alone times. As I was focusing on ME and my mental and physical well-being, God was preparing someone hand picked for me. Needless to say, I'm glad I went through the process! I'm glad I didn't rush into another marriage or settle for someone because of my feelings of loneliness. I'm glad I waited!
Treat yourself this Holiday to a special day and evening. If not a quiet night alone, celebrate with a group of friends. Just don't sit at home and pout because everyone has someone except you. Pity is not Pretty! Take control of your emotional well-being. It is the next step towards your WHOLENESS! God wants to put two WHOLE people together, not two halves. Work on being WHOLE...inside and out. You may think you're ready, but it's God that determines when you've reached that time in your life. Until then, keep working on yourself.
I had to make myself do things that were uncomfortable, to push myself and my emotional limitations. I went to the beach alone, I ate dinner at a nice restaurant alone, I've gone to the movies by myself and laughed out loud. I've driven hundreds of mile to attend weddings, speaking engagements and just to spend time by myself in order to hear my thoughts, and feel my emotions without outside interference. I'm not encouraging you to do something I haven't experienced. I've had so many ask me how I did it, how I got through the pain, loneliness and rejection. This is how...it's hard! I started out not liking it, but then, one day, it flipped, and I began to look forward to those alone times. As I was focusing on ME and my mental and physical well-being, God was preparing someone hand picked for me. Needless to say, I'm glad I went through the process! I'm glad I didn't rush into another marriage or settle for someone because of my feelings of loneliness. I'm glad I waited!
Treat yourself this Holiday to a special day and evening. If not a quiet night alone, celebrate with a group of friends. Just don't sit at home and pout because everyone has someone except you. Pity is not Pretty! Take control of your emotional well-being. It is the next step towards your WHOLENESS! God wants to put two WHOLE people together, not two halves. Work on being WHOLE...inside and out. You may think you're ready, but it's God that determines when you've reached that time in your life. Until then, keep working on yourself.
